I didn’t really know what to write this morning, and nothing is fine by me. Zella didn’t want to go for a walk….very rare. So here I am humming to Desperado during my morning off routine: Desperado, why don’t you come to your senses? Come down from your fences, open the gate It may be rainin’, but there’s a rainbow above you You better let somebody love you Let somebody love you You better let somebody love you before it’s too late #Eagles
Yesterday morning I ran into KK (fictitious name) while walking my dog, Zella. Our dogs are best buds….so cute! KK was so excited because she met a man via mutual work associates and have been dating for a few months. KK said “Judy, we can just sit on the sofa and kiss for hours!” Well, I have to comment when it comes to dating. “Seriously KK this happens at every age. It’s like puppy love and lust and love can happen in your 70’s just like in your teens!” KK
Remember that every relationship is different from one person to the next. And the great thing about dating is that you’re not married so it’s easy to make a sincere exit from your relationship and search for the one for you! I get that it hurts and you’re right that breakups aren’t easy. The takeaway here is that just because you had different viewpoints and issues with one person doesn’t mean it’ll be same with another. Take a quick dating break, readjust, get out of your own way, and move
Dating and not getting anywhere? Stop, and take a year or so off from seeing anyone romantically. Make friends with folks you normally wouldn’t. Try different experiences alone or with others. Get comfortable by yourself and know yourself better. Regroup yourself and get back to that great base person that you truly are. Now after your break from dating, see the types of person you attract and who you’re attracted to. I bet they’ll be more compatible to the person you truly are. The whole point here is to find
Hey guys, when meeting your first date at a venue be sure to be there before her, or at least within minutes of the agreed upon time. Traffic? Couldn’t find the other sock? Mom called? There is no excuse. The lady shouldn’t have to wait there by herself, and you never know who she could meet while waiting for your scrumptious buttocks. Game on! Married men, be there on time for your wives, this shows you care and is very good foreplay for what’s to come.
You gotta think about why you’re dating. Stop. Think. Why? Are you filling up your time with date after date because you’re afraid to be alone (Captain Crunch) or simply can’t find the right long termer (Wheaties)? A few years ago I was listening to Jenny McCarthy on XM radio. She’s the best…funny as heck and as smart as my Rhodesian Ridgeback, Zella, well almost. Jenny hides her smarts behind her comedic personality, the glossed locks and beautiful skin, and guys I don’t even have to mention her BOOBS, and
What’s the best way to meet the person of your dreams? On-line dating or through a friend? Online, you don’t know this person but with resources today you can do your due diligence. So, your soccer mom friends know a man/woman from a different league and think you’re both nice people and should meet? Sure, go ahead but treat this like an online date. Eyes wide open, because your friends really don’t know this person or their working brain. Don’t trust him/her just because your friends know this person. Ask
Ready to invest in dating? This investment is your time, not your money. Realistically, are you able to free up a part of your schedule in the beginning to get to know this new potential partner? Realistically, you’re going to need to free more time during the entire dating process. And, dating is a numbers game depending on the experience of the dater. You’ll most likely spend a few months together and happily hop your own ways, dating some more to find your life partner, or dating for what other
Still dating or attracted to the same type of person? Take a dating break. No serial dating. Don’t try to date a different type….just don’t date that type of person anymore, and see the new type of person comes towards you. You need to be eyes wide open to recognize the change, and this will take a little bit of time. You’ll be pleasantly surprised.
Everyone has a perfect match. Perfect person? Nope. Perfect match? Yes. We all have flaws, perfections, and faults, needed to match with that perfectly, unperfect person that is compatible with our lives.
